Monday, August 21, 2006

Transfer-Wk 42,Mon-Excuse lecture & a movie link

Vikesh posted a trailer for a DVD called “Transcending Stuttering: The Inside Story”. I believe the DVD is available from the National Stuttering Association.
Also, I recently saw this advice given on Yahoo Groups. And thought it was a good lecture on fear and excuses. Enjoy ;-)
Diva,
Consider this...How mant times in the last 10 years-- have you tried to make friends and been rejected--where they said "I don't want to be your friend because you stutter" ?-- How many jobs have you gone for and been told "sorry, we can't hire you w/ that stutter" Consider that it is FEAR of stuttering that is holding you back and not the stuttering itself. The person rejecting you.. is YOU ! You are saying "I can't be his friend,.he won’t like me because I stutter" or "I can't get that job.. I stutter.. I wont even try" Notice -- You are married. You have two kids.. you are a dental assistant.. Do you know how many fluent people never even achieve that ? I know you're thinking "yeah, but.."--but step outside yourself.. Look at yourself objectively.. Most people have a "reason"--a scapegoat-- a fault in their character they blame for not having all they want.. Ours is often stuttering..."I can blame the stutteirng-- I didn't get the job because I stutter.. I don't have friends because I stutter"- -b ut apparenty some people like you and hire you..and you're doing OK in life.. DO you honestly believe if you didn't stutter.. you'd be the most outgoing, super employed person on Earth--that you're perfect in every other way and only stuttering is holding ya back ?
Nah, Diva is holding Diva back : )

From Yahoo Groups-Stuttering Support

PS-Sorry for the recent silence, but I’m still alive …. I’ll try to post more often.


Not meant as advice, please find a qualified therapist if you are interested in similar therapy.

8 Comments:

At Wednesday, August 30, 2006 9:34:00 PM, Blogger stutterstan said...

That is an interesting tidbit of advice. Although I sometimes do use stuttering as a crutch I feel that is does hold me back in life. How many times have you kept quiet because you couldn't get the words out at the right time. Or maybe tried to make a phone call and the person on the other end hanged up before you could get a word out. What's your thoughts John?
PS- I just signed up for a one week PFSP refresher course in September. Alot of future endevours hinges on this course, wish me luck.

 
At Sunday, September 17, 2006 1:51:00 PM, Blogger Neston Alex said...

Hi John,
I'm in software profession.Now I'm working for a good employer.I struggled a lot. to get this job because of my stuttering.Even I can not even tell my comments in meetings.But once I tried to make my comment on a particular topic...and I stuttered...from the next meeting onwards my immediate boss avoiding to see me in meetings (just he didn't want me to tell (stutter) anyting in the meeting) .

Now I have to travel to US to work from client side.I started worring..:)

Thanks
Alex

 
At Friday, October 06, 2006 11:57:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey John
This is Tom, remember me, anyway, I got back from my army training. I am on leave for 1 week, anyway, stuttering has caused some problem, makes me a less high speed soldier, but I managed most of the tasks in the army, but it's hard for me to be in the leadership position..anyway, just saying hi....

 
At Tuesday, October 10, 2006 4:21:00 PM, Anonymous digvijoy said...

well yes it is true, stuttering does hold you back from so many things in life. It has held me back from 70% of the things i'd love to do. I always aspired to take part in a debate, but i never could. But now im starting to do things i never could before, im trying to kill the fear that haunts my life, and it seems to be going pretty well, at the end of the day i can actually say to myself..."man i cant believe i just did that" i encourage everyone to make the same effort, forget that you stutter, it is not important, it is who you are, nobody will pay you more if you spoke without a glitch or nobody would like you more. Cherish the support you have in life and fight all your fears!

 
At Tuesday, October 10, 2006 4:42:00 PM, Anonymous digvijoy said...

you might want to check this out, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTZEEe7R8OY

 
At Sunday, October 22, 2006 11:47:00 PM, Blogger Jhong Ren said...

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At Sunday, April 13, 2008 5:08:00 PM, Blogger starranise said...

The link to Professor Schneider's 'Transcending Stuttering: The Inside Story' no longer works but here is the new one:

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-8018851933497152830

 
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